This week two readers have messaged me on facebook with exactly the same question so I thought that would make for a great blog post and kill 2 birds. So my readers are each pregnant with another baby and they are either copping the questions and comments from strangers (and people they know) or expecting them. And they wanted to know what my advice was. What do you say? What do you do?
And I have to think of Madagascar! Smile and wave boys, just smile and wave. Seems to work for me. Just kidding. Well sort of because I do just smile. Sometimes it might be a fake smile like when someone says don’t you know what causes it or don’t you have a tv or are you catholic. But a few years ago I realised that people just like to talk for the sake of talking. So it doesn’t have much to do with you or how many kids you have but people just like to say something. I can be pushing the twin pram and people say you’ve got your hands full (and I’m thinking this isn’t even half of our family) or I could be out with all the kids and people will say something. You could have one child and people ask aren’t you having any more. You have no children and people ask are you having any and you have a big family and you get the comments too.
Basically my advice is smile and just say to yourself they just had to say something and are making small talk. Let me tell you that I’ve heard it all and then some more too – twice I’ve had people say ‘but they are so clean’. Oh yes. But I can honestly say that 95% of the time, people don’t intend to be mean or critical and they just want to say something. I can count on one hand the number of times people have really offended me with their comments over the years. And at those times it has really irritated me but they are not people in my life or that I’ve ever seen again and their comments mean nothing to me and my family life. And I can always remember when there are people who have just been so sweet and nice about our family and that always makes up for anything that might have offended.
So that’s my answer……it’s not deep or anything but basically I’ve heard it all before and I’m sure once my big pregnant tummy comes on show that I will hear some more……like every single time I go the supermarket. But I love my family, I have a great life and I’m proud of my family. People’s opinions and comments don’t bother me when I’m out and about anymore. They probably did when I had the twins or we had our 4th but really twins are a whole new world of sideshow entertainment when you’re out and about anyway. If people say you’re crazy or whatever I tell them I love it and we have lots of fun at our house. And I’ll tell you something, I’ve seen little kids looking over at our table if we’re out eating and I’m sure they are wishing they could sit with us and all the kids at the fun table.
Over to you………what’s your advice? worst thing someone has said to you? Does it bother you? Love to hear……..